The state of Florida requires that parents with minor children who are getting divorced (or who are going through a paternity case that involves issues of parental responsibility) attend a seminar specifically designed to help them make healthy choices regarding their children. The parties don’t have to attend together. (and course attendance can be excused by the court for good cause) Hopefully the parties can learn to be peaceable, especially when children, who need to get through the divorce too, are involved. .

Here’s some information from PDR (Positive Divorce Resolution) that should be helpful. It’s a 4 hour one session course and 18,000 people have taken it since 1993. (and in Broward County call Positive Parenting Through Divorce for registration information. The number is 1-954-252-9130, or email the program director, Paul Maione, Ph.D. at paul@nova.edu.)

Positive Divorce Resolution (PDR) is a course designed specifically for parents who are considering divorce or separation, or have initiated some court action involving their children. This legal action may include divorce, change of timesharing arrangements regarding minor children, modification of financial support, or any other change in a prior dissolution of marriage order. PDR is a first step toward resolving the conflict, and establishing personal and parental boundaries.

In the course, parents will explore communication patterns, goals and commitments. They will also learn new skills for negotiation and the effects of parental conflict on children. If parents do become involved with the legal system in an effort to reach a solution, PDR, or a course like it, will be required for both parents.

Benefits to parents and children include: reduced conflict, better communication, safety, increased contact between parents and children, reduced stress, teamwork, better adjustment to divorce and a more supportive environment during the stages of loss and grief. Courtrooms were never designed to solve family problems. Generally, the tools available to the legal system only make those problems worse. Parents who have skill and commitment are in the best position to help themselves and their children.